Do You Give or Take in Relationships?

Quiz

DO YOU GIVE OR TAKE IN RELATIONSHIPS?

1. Do you donate a part of your income to charity:

a. Never

b. Rarely

c. Regularly

2. When you’re out shopping, do you buy small presents for others as a surprise:

a. Yes

b. No

c. Sometimes

3. When it comes to making a decision with your partner about where to go on a holiday or what to do at the weekend, do you:

a. Usually get your on way

b. Leave it entirely to your partner

c. Make a joint decision where possible

4. When you find out your neighbors are ill, do you:

a. Send them a “Get Well Soon” card

b. Make a meal and take it to them

c. Keep meaning to visit when you can

5. Do you get upset if you don’t always get your own way or are not given first choice:

a. Sometimes

b. Always

c. Never

6. At the end of a hard day, when somebody comes and talks to you about their problems, would you lend them a sympathetic ear:

a. Probably

b. Not if I’m tired

c. Yes

7. Do you feel that other people tend to take advantage of your good nature and kindness:

a. No

b. Yes

c. Sometimes

8. Do you fell that the things you do for other people should be reciprocated by them:

a. It would be nice occasionally

b. Not at all

c. Yes

9. When you do a friend a favor, are you hurt when she does not thank you or show any gratitude:

a. No, it doesn’t bother me

b. Yes, but not many people say thanks these days

c. It can hurt if I have really put myself out for them

10. If one of your colleagues makes a mistake at work, would you cover up for him?

a. Yes

b. It depends on how serious the mistake is

c. No

HOW TO SCORE

1.   (a)1 (b)2 (c)3

2.   (a)3 (b)1 (c)2

3.   (a)1 (b)3 (c)2

4.   (a)2 (b)3 (c)1

5.   (a)2 (b)1 (c)3

6.   (a)2 (b)1 (c)3

7.   (a)3 (b)1 (c)2

8.   (a)2 (b)3 (c)1

9.   (a)3 (b)1 (c)2

10. (a)3 (b)2 (c)1

CHECK YOUR POINTS RATING:

10-16

It’s all take and no give in your relationships. If you attempted to be more generous and put yourself out there a little you could be pleasantly surprised by the rewarding reactions of other people towards you.

17-23

You are about average when it comes to giving and taking in relationships. You have a healthy balance and believe that as you give, you receive. But don’t think of “give and take” as being a bargain. Giving is pleasurable – and sometimes the reward is somebody’s happy face.

24-30

There is such a thing as giving too much. It’s not a bad fault, but if you’re honest, you must often feel you are being taken advantage of. Remember that it’s perfectly fine to say “no” every once in awhile. Always saying “yes” can sometimes create more problems, both at home and at work.